{"id":15755,"date":"2018-08-16T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2018-08-16T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.adra.sk\/nezostanme-ticho-o-nasili-nahlas\/"},"modified":"2018-08-16T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"2018-08-16T00:00:00","slug":"nezostanme-ticho-o-nasili-nahlas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.adra.sk\/en\/nezostanme-ticho-o-nasili-nahlas\/","title":{"rendered":"Let's not stay silent, we need to speak out about violence"},"content":{"rendered":"

When do we talk about domestic or sexual violence? How can we recognise an abusive relationship? Is it necessary to seek help? Is there a solution? Experts from the KIT team of ADRA Slovakia point out the most common signs of violence and abuse and offer solutions.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone. But it is often downplayed, ignored and denied. This is especially true when the violence is psychological, not physical. However, domestic violence occurs whenever one person in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to dominate and control the other person. In fact, domestic violence is used for one purpose only: to gain and maintain complete control over you. Abusers, the abusers, use fear, guilt, shame and intimidation to \u201ckeep you under their thumb\u201d.<\/p>\n

If you are experiencing violence or know someone in a violent relationship, there is a way out, there is help!<\/strong> Don't stay silent, let it be known. No one should live in fear of the person they live with. However, the experts from the Crisis Intervention Team (KIT) of ADRA Slovakia emphasize: \u201eThe first step to ending an abusive relationship is recognizing the signs and realizing that what you are experiencing in the relationship is not okay and may be a form of violence.\u201c<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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Recognise the signs of abuse<\/h3>\n

It is important to notice these two things:<\/p>\n

1. If someone begins to show power and control.<\/strong> For example, if your spouse forbids you from going out, seeing friends or humiliates others. (family, friends)<\/p>\n

2. And, of course, any form of aggression - verbal and physical.<\/strong> It is a slow and creeping process. Often violent partners are very gentle at the beginning. At first everything is fine, and little by little, suddenly more and more humiliation, orders, prohibitions start to be added to the violence.<\/p>\n

Control manifests itself in a mild form at the beginning of the relationship. The partner wants to know where you are going, with whom and for how long. If you don't see each other, he wants to know exactly what you've been up to. He calls or texts on a regular basis, even if he knows you are with your girlfriend. If he doesn't reach you on the phone, he reacts angrily and angrily. Says mean things about your friends or family members in an attempt to separate you from them. He blames you for keeping things from him, for your lack of trust, and starts to correct how you should behave. Uses abusive language and derogatory remarks - well dosed. This intimidates you and keeps you in check. This form of violence causes migraines, heart and stomach problems, depression and anxiety.<\/p>\n

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What triggers insecurity and guilt in you<\/h3>\n

Such a partner can always somehow defend his behaviour and trigger feelings of insecurity and the confession that he is probably right. He will find unjustified reasons for his bad mood. For example, suddenly the food is not hot enough, the apartment is unclean, the children are too loud, etc. These initial symptoms often escalate until they can culminate in physical violence. Often it takes years before a person finally takes the plunge and seeks help.<\/strong> A person who experiences violence is often ashamed and afraid to talk about it. Or he thinks: maybe I am even guilty.
\nDomestic violence occurs across all ages, ethnic backgrounds and economic levels. And while women are more likely to be victims, men are also abused - especially verbally and emotionally. The bottom line is that such behavior is never acceptable, whether the victim is a man, a woman, a teenager or an older adult. Everyone deserves to be valued, respected and to live in safety.<\/p>\n

Therefore, please: Let us speak out about violence. If you know someone in your neighbourhood who is experiencing violence, or if you feel that something is wrong in your relationship and you are experiencing psychological suffering or manipulation - being silent will not help you or your loved ones. Every situation can be dealt with. Contact the KIT team:\u00a0www.adra.sk\/pomoc-obetiam-nasilia-kit\/<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Text: Lucia Klim\u00e1\u010dkov\u00e1, psychologist<\/p>\n

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https:\/\/www.adra.sk\/dostojnyzivot\/<\/p>\n

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ADRA KIT is currently caring for almost twenty victims of domestic violence. Find out more about why victims of violence need our help, why it's important to speak up about violence and how you can help too at \u27a1\ufe0f<\/span><\/span> www.adra.sk\/dostojnyzivot<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

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